What I want to ask is how you feel about marriage in this day and age. Some of you know my partner, Doug, and I have been to three weddings over the last three months with another one just after Christmas. Others know we were going to get married in June just gone but had to cancel. Now we seemed to have changed our priorities and the wedding isn't even something we talk about.
Like most, Doug and I did it all backwards. We got pregnant, bought a house, had a baby, had another baby but are still living in sin and enjoying every minute of it. Back in the day and not too long ago, marriage was just the next logical step in the course of a girls dating life. You meet the guy, fall in love, get married, buy a house, have sex then the babies come. Not now. I don't many women who have, or are, saving themselves for marriage and Mr Right. More commonly, it's Mr Right Now and virginity is a word you forgot the meaning of a long time ago. I'm not saying all the women around me are having sex at twelve and being little sluts. I'm just saying the term 'try before you buy' is being taken more and more literally in terms of the man you are going to marry. And why shouldn't I? I'm only going to get married once!
Then there are those who get married because the old logic kicked in and took it as the next step. Are they happy? If Bridezilla didn't rear her ugly, frazzled, bossy head and you went through with it all, are you happy? $30,000 dollars later, was it worth it?
I'm not asking these questions because I don't believe in the sanctity of marriage. I do. I still term that day of one of the biggest of my life and it hasn't happened yet. I have friends who are already married and divorced and most of them are younger than me but it doesn't put me off. I want to pledge to my life to his in the house of God and then I want to celebrate it with all my friends and family but not at the expense of our financial happiness. Make no mistake, I'm going to go a little Bridezilla and I want our wedding to be perfect and that means spending a little money. I don't want to settle for the wedding that someone else might have been happy with. I want what I want (with some input from Doug) and I won't settle for less. Some days the wedding seems so insignificant in the face of providing our girls with everything they want and need and more.
Guess that means I shouldn't hold my breath... nah, just kidding. I'm going to write that next bestseller, publishers are going to fight over me and I'll be able to pay for ten weddings!!
Anyway, I'm off to my first hen's night of all these weddings and I'm going to let my hair down, wish the bride good luck and be happy.
I'm going to have fun =)